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CAN'T FOLLOW YOUR BLISS YET? Start By Leaving Your Misery Behind!

6/15/2022

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What’s in the way of following our bliss?
 
Surely, it’s easy to come up with a long answer to this question, as we can list countless reasons why we find ourselves incapable of making positive choices in life and being happy. But the truth is that most humans get a kick out of being miserable. No point in denying this simple fact; scientific studies prove that our brain is wired for negativity (please see What Is the Negativity Bias? Article under References).
 
Research also shows that our default tendency is to say “no” and protect ourselves from change. According to an article from Psychology Today (The Power of No; please see under References), “the human brain is hardwired to respond to No more quickly, more intensely, and more persistently than to a positive signal. No is stronger than Yes.”
 
Of course, knowing when to say “no” is an important survival skill. The problem is when we get stuck on the “no.” Since change is the fiber of life (and one of the only constants in our lives), that means we tend to spend a lot of our time and energy resisting change by trying to avoid or control it, which is a sure recipe for misery. As misery loves company, we often contribute to making others around us miserable by resisting the changes they might be ready to make, trying to hold them back or resenting them when and if they do manage to change their lives. In turn, they do the same for us.
 
Another reason that prevents us from finding our bliss and keeps us stuck in misery is not being able to let go of the past. Past trauma can lead to PTSD and other serious issues that often need to be addressed with professional help. However, there’s always a choice to be made: Seeing ourselves as victims and refusing to let the past go, or acknowledging, accepting and working to heal from past suffering, remembering that our past experiences helped shape who we are.
 
So what’s the solution?
 
6 Rules for Leaving Your Misery Behind:
 
- Being willing to use “no,” while at the same time going with the flow. Developing and maintaining healthy boundaries is vital for allowing ourselves the space to seek self-fulfillment and live well. On the other hand, misery ensues when we keep saying “no” to the flow of life. The trick is to tap into our inner and higher guidance to find a balance between “no” and “yes.”
 
- Accepting change as a fact of life without trying to control it. Remember Ben Franklyn’s ol’ adage, “nothing is certain, except death and taxes”? The word “change” should be added to that saying. No point in digging our heels; it’s gonna happen...
 
- Becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable. Life is full of discomfort. Trying to constantly avoid it doesn’t serve us well; it just makes us afraid and keeps us stuck.
 
- Reconciling with the past with the help of some core work. We can use tools we’ve familiar with (such as forgiveness) and learn new tools or get professional help.
 
- Sharing our story with the right audience as part of our healing process, and as a means to help inspire and guide others through their own challenges.
 
- Consciously choosing to leave misery behind! It does take a conscious choice or decision on our part. Less misery means more room for bliss!
 
© Gisele Marasca-Vargas; 05/26/22
thehealershome.com
 
Photo by Etienne Girardet on Unsplash
 
References:
What Is the Negativity Bias?
https://www.verywellmind.com/negative-bias-4589618
 
The Power of No
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201311/the-power-no
 
You Might Also Like:
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https://www.theragicenter.com/giseles-blog/do-you-run-on-guilt
 
Self Knowledge May Be Power...
https://www.theragicenter.com/giseles-blog/self-knowledge-may-be-power
 
It’s Not Perfect.
https://www.theragicenter.com/giseles-blog/its-not-perfect
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